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How do I know I'm a lesbian?

Sexual orientation isn't something that most people understand overnight. However, some people say "I knew I was a lesbian when my friends were chasing boys on the playground, and I wish I was the one being chased." Often, people take a long time to fully understand what their sexual identity is.

A lot of different factors can make coming out as a lesbian a stressful situation. IYG believes that no matter what anyone tells you, that identifying as gay was something that was predetermined for you. In the words of Lady Gaga…"you were born this way!"

You are not alone. There are so many youth (and adults too) out there who are questioning their sexual orientation.  Some people say that they thought they were bisexual and then realized they were a lesbian. Some people identify as bisexual even though they know deep down they are a lesbian.  Some people identify as a lesbian and then end up dating an opposite gender person.  Some people stay in the closet their whole life. Does this make them straight, bisexual, or questioning? Everyone has an opinion…its up to you to remember that questioning your sexuality is very much normal. 

Being a lesbian means that you are romantically, emotionally, and/or sexually attracted to another woman. Sometimes lesbians prefer the word gay which can mean the same thing. Homosexual is a word that many hear often as well. Some people feel that this term is derogatory and choose not to use it because homosexuality was considered a mental illness until the early 1970's when the diagnosis was taken out of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders

You can find additional info about coming out as a lesbian from our LGBTQ 101 page.

If you don't know who to tell about your sexual orientation, we are here for you!  Contact us.